About a month ago I was asked this question by a dear friend over text message, it read, “Has anyone dated the best of you?” I never thought about it so it took me by surprise. I could not answer right away and it took me at least two hours to answer what seemed to be a simple yet complex question. As I contemplated the question I could not come up with a good enough answer. It was a bit hard for me because I’d like to think of myself as self-aware with strong views and opinions, which means most of the time I have an opinion or answer, except this time I had nothing. My mind went blank and I couldn’t answer. However, I didn’t want to find just any answer, I wanted to genuinely answer what felt true to me. I thought about it for a while and I came to the conclusion that no one has ever dated the best of me (perhaps I came close once, but I was too young and immature to know if I was really offering the best of myself). It came as a shock a bit because one always wants to show the best we have to offer, yet most of us come short perhaps due to negative past experiences, fear & mistrust, etc., and with those feelings lingering on our subconscious no one will ever date the best version of us (that we must let go of, seriously).
Finally after two hours of contemplating the question, I had it, my closest friends have dated the best of me. Of course, we were not friends that I was romantically involved nor interested in but I think they are the ones that have experienced the best of me. Why? Because they SEE ME for who I am, inside and out. They’ve seen me at my highs, my lows, my strengths, my weaknesses, my flaws and my virtues. No matter what, they have been there for me. Not to say that we are perfect. We get upset from time to time, argue, and some times share difference of opinions yet we always manage to respect, love and support each other regardless. Seems like a pretty healthy relationship to me, no? So what about you? Has anyone dated the BEST VERSION OF YOU? Or is it still a work in progress?