Has Anyone Dated the Best of You?

About a month ago I was403cad7974cb9a3c1fecdefa4fed3518 asked this question by a dear friend over text message, it read, “Has anyone dated the best of you?” I never thought about it so it took me by surprise. I could not answer right away and it took me at least two hours to answer what seemed to be a simple yet complex question. As I contemplated the question I could not come up with a good enough answer. It was a bit hard for me because I’d like to think of myself as self-aware with strong views and opinions, which means most of the time I have an opinion or answer, except this time I had nothing. My mind went blank and I couldn’t answer. However, I didn’t want to find just any answer, I wanted to genuinely answer what felt true to me. I thought about it for a while and I came to the conclusion that no one has ever dated the best of me (perhaps I came close once, but I was too young and immature to know if I was really offering the best of myself). It came as a shock a  bit because one always wants to show the best we have to offer, yet most of us come short perhaps due to negative past experiences, fear & mistrust, etc.,  and with those feelings lingering on our subconscious no one will ever date the best version of us (that we must let go of, seriously).

Finally after two hours of contemplating the question, I had it, my closest friends have dated the best of me. Of course, we were not friends that I was romantically involved nor interested in but I think they are the ones that have experienced the best of me. Why? Because they SEE ME for who I am, inside and out. They’ve seen me at my highs, my lows, my strengths, my weaknesses, my flaws and my virtues. No matter what, they have been there for me. Not to say that we are perfect. We get upset from time to time, argue, and some times share difference of opinions yet we always manage to respect, love and support each other regardless. Seems like a pretty healthy relationship to me, no? So what about you? Has anyone dated the BEST VERSION OF YOU? Or is it still a work in progress?


4 comments on “Has Anyone Dated the Best of You?

  1. That is a word used very loosely. Personally I think that, in order for someone to date the best of you, that person must be your soulmate in order to spend the rest of your life with that person, and in turn, date the best of you. Never the less, there are times where you have people that are capable of giving all without expecting much in return. People capable of doing this allow the receiving individual to date the best of you.


    • I think the best of you comes when you are inspired by that person which brings out the best in you, you want to be a better person, a better citizen, a better human, a better lover, a better friend; therefore you are open & vulnerable even if perhaps you do not receive the same amount in return. However I do not agree we only have one soulmate; in this ever expanding vast universe, in a world of 8 billion people, over 200 countries, it’s a limiting believe to think there is only one soulmate for us. (Most relationship experts would agree). A soulmate is a soul/energy connection w another person and it can be a friend or a romantic partner. For some people they have that connection that they nurture & it lasts forever but for some it ends and it’s ok. It does not mean you will not find that connection with anyone else.

  2. Im not sure if anyone ever has because I have a bad habit of hiding things from ppl . Painful things, some embarrassing things, its very hard to open up and reveal the issues that have been a part of me.

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